The National Institute on Aging estimate there may be over 7 million people across the United States who participate in caring for an older family member.  This care can includes a variety of activities such as “helping with finances or money management to arranging for in-home care; from providing respite care for a primary caregiver to creating a plan in case of emergencies. Many long-distance caregivers act as information coordinators, helping aging parents understand the confusing maze of new needs, including home health aides, insurance benefits and claims, and durable medical equipment.(NIA)“  In the downloadable NIA’s booklet, So Far Way, you can find information about how long-distance caregivers can help, what resources are available and how to find more support.

In addition to NIA’s recommendations, we’d like to throw in a few thoughts of our own.  First of all, make sure the person you’d like to assist wants your help.  In many cases, someone who needs help may deny your offer to get involved, because he/she wants to assert their independence for as long as possible. There are times however, when well-meaning family members attempt to intervene when it is not necessary.  Discuss your concerns with family members before assuming someone needs you to jump to their rescue. Respect their wishes.

Secondly, with the use of today’s technology, staying connected doesn’t always require a personal visit.  For example, just as many of us now use Skype to “visit” with our college students, this tool can be easily set up for use by your aging parent or grandparent. Sometimes just seeing that someone is okay, can relieve the stress level of the long-distance caregiver.  Emails, regular phone calls, and maybe the use of social media can all help you stay and feel connected.